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cookief — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 07:33:52 +0000

I have started working full time again after many years of being a Staying At Home Mom. Its hard, really, going back to working world. But I do not have a choice. We are really financially poor.

Its been more than a year since I have started work. Its kinda nice , as you get to have lunch with other people, work, get paid at the end of the month and etc….. Having own money means that you get to buy whatever you want, get to eat out more, treated myself to thai massage twice too!

But all these have put a toll on my kids too. I think they are being neglected. I no longer spend time with them as my work takes me away from them most of the time. I come home quite late. And sometimes, when I come home, they are already asleep.

Their studies are my concern too. Since I am not around to monitor them, they spend most of their spare time watching tv. I really dislike it so much. But what can I do? Told them many times to try to spend more time on homework, reading, outdoor activity or art and craft, but they ignored me.

Saturday and Sundays are spend with family. If not, i would rather sleep…. my favorite pastime. How I wish I can have more time for my kids and at the same time, money still comes in every month end………

Feeling very down

cookief — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 06:10:54 +0000

I am really feeling down. I am a mother of 2 young boys. My hubby is a real estate agent but he is not really good at it. He has been in this field for approximately 5 years. But his income per month is really low and most of the time, none at al. Now, its me who is supporting the family. He likes to play computer games throughout the day. He does not want to work for people as his ego is too big. I am too stressed out as my income is too low to support the entire family. Whenever I told him to stop playing games, he gets mad. I have already very prudent in my spending. Actually I do not spend at all. I am even eating oats for lunch so that I can save for the family. Whenever I go out, I only choose the cheapest things in town for myself. Most of my things are so outdated. Its not me that is so outdated, but I do not have the money to be in fashion. My sons are also not so well behaved. He is in Std 1 right now. But when he gets home, all he does is play and play. I have told him to at least finish his homework before he goes to play. Probably he is too young to understand self control. But this will cause me to fork out a chuck of my salary to send him to a daycare centre for studies. I really do not have a choice. I really do not now how am I going to survive any longer. We still have not got an insurance policy for my younger son. I really owe him this. I really plan to buy him one very soon. But with such budget constraint, how can I manage? Tried very long to find a part time job, but still could not find one that is suitable. I come home quite late after work, as such, not much time to work part time too. Not too mentioned that I am really tired at the end of the day. I am really stressed out. Anyway out? Tried talking to hubby but failed. He still keep playing games not knowing that he is almost reaching age 40 and yet still without a proper job and income. I do not know what is he thinking. He keep telling me that he have plans in his mind but lack of money. If he continue like this, I rather die as I am too tired. Actually I do not mind to provide for the family, but as long as you are as working and contribute some, I would be grateful. And do stop playing games as it is so addictive until you would rather send us out of your way so that you can have peace to yourself to play. Have you ever think about me? I have feelings too! Sometimes, I wanted to go out too. All you do is to ask me where do I want to go? Can’t you just bring me somewhere and plan for me at times? If I do not suggest a place, you would just stay at home and continue to play your games. Can’t you just plan something for me? Can you just give me some surprises instead of just being a driver? If I am not able to find a place to go or eat, can’t you just google some places for us? Why must you continue to play your games? I am really bored. Really really bored and sad and hurt. I really wish that I have more money. I used to hate money. But now I really wish that I have more money. I still have lots of important things that I need to spend on especially for my kids. I don’t think you care enough for your kids. You do not care much about other people but yourself. You are really a selfish person who only care for yourself. As long as you can play games, you will be satisfied. You have never think about my feelings and needs. You also do not care much about your kids. If you care enough for your kids, you will not play games and instead, put all your energy in looking for more money for the family. Since playing games is your priority each day, tell me how much you care for your family? If you can use all your time on your games and use it to look for money, I think it will make a big difference. Tell me, what can I do more?

Shocking sentence from ZM (5yrs+)

cookief — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 07:08:38 +0000

Yesterday night after ZM had brushed his teeth and changed into his pajamas, he came into our room where I was in front of the computer. He suddenly said some weird stuffs to me.

He said: Mummy, please don’t die first. I don’t want you to die so early. You can only die after I die!

I got a shock of my life when I heard him saying this. But I calm myself and asked him why did he said like that. He said he miss me very much and would not want to see me die. I quickly comfort him that I will not die before him and will see him through his growing years. I reminded him about his grandparents who are still around and big we are now! This calmed him down and he relaxed.

My…. oh…. my……Is my son thinking too much? I know he is very attached to me, but saying things like this is scaring me, as he thinks too much!

Hurray!!!!!I got it!

cookief — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 08:52:50 +0000

Hurray! I manage to get that job!!!

In the morning, I had to go to the HR department to get a letter to perform the medical check. Then, I have to go to the clinic which is not at the same building as the HR department. Luckily hubby was around to chauffeur me. The medical checkup was fast. Luckily I manage to pass all the test, which are: Physical Examination, Drug Test, Chest X-Ray and Colour-Blindness Test. The doctor was a lady and she was a really nice and gentle lady. My medical report was then presented to me.

After the checkup, I have to go back to HR department to hand them my report. Then only my offer letter can be release to me. Oh, how happy I am when I get to hold the offer letter. Its been quite some time I have entered a large organisation. The HR staff then proceeded to explain to me all the terms and condition. After that, she introduced me to all the HR staffs to me!

Together with my offer letter is a letter for me to open an account for my salary. I wasted no time and went to open an account after having lunch with hubby.

Woohoo!

Happy Day

cookief — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:35:09 +0000

Yesterday, I got a call from PM, which I was waiting since last week. It was a call that I was looking forward for. Yes, I am changing my career. I have always wanted to get hold of a permanent full time job for a very long time already.

Since ZM and ZD has already started schooling this year, I am free at last. I have planned this for a long time. They are both put into full day program in school so that I can go to work.

As currently I am only working from home, my income is so unstable and low. I could not go on like this anymore as I really need the money. The fees for both of them are so high and plus ZM is enrolled in Speech and Drama Class. Each month, the expenses for the kids are so high!

At last, PM called and said that I manage to get the job. But I need to go through a medical checkup which is scheduled tomorrow. If I pass the checkup, then only the offer letter will be issued. Hope that I can pass with flying colours!

My boy is on stage!!

cookief — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 07:22:26 +0000

ZM used to be a very shy boy. And actually he still is a shy boy. But on 14 November 2009, he performed on stage for his Speech and Drama class! They have been practising for a few weeks already for this performance. The title of his group was Paradesia which was all about seaside.

For his performance, I had to buy him a set of Hawaiian (beach wear) clothes. Actually he only needs the pants but due to his small size, there isn’t any pants suitable for him, so I ended up buying the whole set. Boys are supposed to be barechested and barefooted. A lei was provided for each students in his group. He is one of the youngest among his friends in his group. So, I did not expect much from him too. All I asked for is for him to enjoy himself and increase his self -esteem.

He did enjoyed himself very much! At least he did not have any stage fright! ZD and myself was there to support him as hubby was away for work. I brought along my camera to capture his stage performance. I can’t say that he performed well, but at least he has given his best. I am proud of him! He kept watching his video over and over again at home.

Last week was the final week of his class. I asked him if he wanted to continue with this program and he said YES! To think back the first few weeks when I enrolled him in this program, he cried badly. I guess, he now knows that this program is really fun and whatmore, no homeworks are given! I gladly paid his fees for next year and hope that he will become a confident young boy.

Nice Hubby

cookief — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:39:15 +0000

Yesterday, I was too lazy and does not have any mood to work. It was only approximately 9.45am. I called hubby and told him that. He said: ok, anywhere do you wish to go? Hahaha…. he is so understanding…. then I kept thinking if I have anywhere to go. After a while, i could not think of a place to go. So, I gave up and got back to work.

Shortly, I received a SMS from hubby. Guess what he said? “Want to eat klang bak kut teh?” What? I said! I called him quickly and asked if he is serius. He said he is absolutely serius. He said it is not a really long journey. I said YES immediately.

He came back and pick me and ZD at 11.30am. We went to klang with ZD taking short nap in the car. He woke up just in time to savour our delicious lunch. We ordered a claypot of pai kuat bakkut teh, a plate of steam beancurd and yau tiu with a pot of hot chinese tea. It cost us approximately RM35 for all we had. What a wonderful lunch! After lunch, hubby suggested to try the famous cendol too. I agree although I could not eat it as I am still coughing. We found the shop and ordered a bowl of cendol and a plate of rojak.

After our food journey, its time for us to go back. I believe we will have more of these food journey!

Halloween……..

cookief — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 04:54:56 +0000

Since Holloween is coming, I have shown my 2 boys photos of carved pumpkins. They kind of like it and I suggested that we carve one out. They were very happy and wanted to go pumpkin hunting. Last weekend, we went to KLCC to do some shopping for hubby. We took the opportunity to visit Cold Storage for pumpkins. Too bad, they only have less than 5 pumpkins and they were very expensive! I guess its because its an imported product, it carries a high price.

So, we decided to get ourself a local pumpkin instead. I told hubby that Jusco has a lots of pumpkin but he decided against going to Jusco as the traffic jam is bad and getting a parking lot at that hour is difficult. So, in the end, we decided to vist Tesco instead. We went there and did some grocery shopping and at last, finding the suitable pumpkin. Tesco really does not have that much of pumpkin to choose, but at least better than Cold Storage.

ZM and I choose the right local pumpkin and we were very satisfied with the price! It cost us less than RM3 for the pumpkin! What a bargain! All of us left Tesco with a satisfied smile. At least better than getting the imported pumpkin, although the colour of local pumpkin is not really that nice.

We did not start carving until yesterday night. Hubby did the carving. ZM and ZD helped to scoop ou the seeds. They had fun. In the end, we lid a candle in the pumpkin after the carving was done. They were happy!!!! Yeah!

ZM the dish washer

cookief — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 05:49:28 +0000

I have been trying to train my kids to be help out the daily house chores. All these while, I have been getting ZM to wash the small and little things which are none greasy like his cups or plates. Recently, I have upgraded him to wash the greasy dishes. He has been doing good, I can say.

He eats slowly during mealtime at times and he would be the last person to leave the table. This makes a good opportunity for me to get him to wash his own dishes. As most of the dishes by other family members has been washed, the only dishes left are his own and only a few others. I showed him the way to deal with detergent soap.

He seems to be doing good so far by not breaking any dishes yet. And I could not push him always to wash as it might backfire and he will never do the dishes. I am going slowly as I am exposing him to house chores. So far, he can help me to hang clothes, fold clothes, mop the floor and wash the dishes now. I will try to introduce more slowly……. I just don’t want him to turn up like his father who never lifted a finger as my MIL has very traditional rules that only girls must do house chores…..

Just an update after a real long break

cookief — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:10:09 +0000

Its been a very very long time I did not update this blog of mine. Yes, I have found a new job. Its again in recruitment line and I get to work from home too. This comes with a disadvantage too! The salary is pathetic too! Anyhow, I felt grateful as I get to to work. I plan to go back to full time working in a proper office next year when ZD goes to school. I sure indeed need the money to put them in school. Hopefully I can get a proper job by then.

Each day now, I have been search the newspaper and internet for jobs that might be suitable for me. But unfortunately, there are really not much position for me. As I am already that old and my working experience are not great, I don’t have a nich market to target. All I hope for is to get a job and support my family.

Another reason why I did not blog is that I am hooked with Facebook. I kept playing games in FB. It is addictive! Each day, I would spend some time going into FB to play. Hehehe….. bad mommy….

ZM and ZD are fine……. Both are still as naughty as ever, ZD being the more naughty and cheekier than his brother. Nowadays, bedtime are getting more difficult. Usually, they will have a story before lights are off. Normally, after the story, they would quitely go to sleep. Nowadays, after the stories, they would chat and disturb each other and would not sleep. Hubby and and have to practically scold them to get them back to sleep.